Partnering 2 Remember, Week 9

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In this section, Peter is talking to the wives. This is the third relationship that Peter lists in which the believer is to “be subject.” Everyone is to be subject to governing authorities (wk7), servants are to be subject to their masters (wk8), and finally, wives are to be subject to their own husbands (wk9). Notice that Peter inserts the word ‘own” to further define “husbands.” Paul does the same thing in his letter to the church in Ephesus. It is interesting to note that not every translation uses the word “own,” and I think that is unfortunate, because wives are not called to submit to anyone else’s husband, but their own. This may seem an obvious point, but when you think of the confusion that the feminist movement has heaped on the culture, I think this modifier helps us to understand the overall idea of submission with the emphasis on the relationship role, and not on male/female relationships across the board. I’ll save the rest of the discussion on that for those who are in the Peter study this year.

Peter tells believing women what their adorning should and be shouldn’t be, as well as giving us an example from OT women “who hoped in God”.  Hearken back to week 2 where Peter tells believers to “set their hope fully on the grace that will be brought to them at the revelation of Jesus Christ.”

In this section, we also see the word “conduct” again, along with Peter’s go-to word “good.”

Memory Aids:

[1] Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so

that even if some do not obey the word, they may be

 won without a word, by the conduct of their wives,

[2] when they see your respectful and pure conduct.


The first two verses make up one sentence. “Likewise” calls us back to Peter’s exhortation to servants and before that to all believers. “Likewise” is the same as saying “In the same way.” This is the third time he uses the phrase “be subject.” It will come up one more time when we get to week 16. The word “conduct” reminds me that this is the general overall thrust of Peter’s exhortations—what should believers’ conduct look like as we sojourn in the world?

Lastly, whenever I see commas, I try and us them to break apart the verse into smaller bites. What’s nice about this one is we have the order of the W’s—wives, word, word, wives.


[3] Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding

of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the

clothing you wear—

[4] but let your adorning be the hidden person of the

heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and

quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.


Adorning – It shouldn’t be about hair, jewelry or clothing

Adorning – should be the hidden person of the heart

With the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit (GQ)


[5] For this is how the holy women who hoped in God

used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their

own husbands,

[6] as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And

you are her children if you do good and do not fear

anything that is frightening.

Adorn – example from the OT, from general – “the holy women” to specific – “as Sarah obeyed Abraham.” How? “by calling him lord.”

And summing it all up – It’s about doing “good” (remember Peter’s go-to word) and then he adds, do not fear anything that is what? – why, “frightening” of course. J

Next week, Peter sums up his exhortation to  “good” behavior towards outsiders before moving on to give more encouragement for his fellow suffering Christians in these regions. Before saying goodbye this week, I want to share with you this little bit of trivia. Last week, Barbaranne pointed out that Peter started a sentence with the word “For” a total of four times. It caused me to think about that curiosity, and I did a little count. In the entire letter, Peter starts his sentences with the word “For” a whopping total of 16 times. I went back and took a quick glance through Paul’s letter to the church in Ephesus, and while he does start sentences with this word, he does so 9 times, plus another 3 adding a thought in his letter, which is arguably longer and wordier than Peter’s letter.  I never really focused on it while memorizing Ephesians, but for some reason, it is jumping out at me with Peter’s letter.

That’s all for now. I pray that you are seeing the blessings of hiding God’s word in your heart as we move along. Remember, this is not a competition, but a storing up of treasure that is richer than anything the eye can see; treasure that won’t perish and will go with us into eternity!

Sola Deo Gloria